Question: I have just begun to use family genograms in my work with families, and especially with couples. The problem I'm having with using the genograms with some of these couples is that a few of my rather obsessive couples, mostly professional people, seem to get very wrapped up in the details of it all, and it's hard to elicit any feelings that might come up as we construct the genograms. I guess I'm just not sure how much doing genograms is supposed to get at unspoken feelings and how much it's really geared toward more intellectual understanding. Is there some way I can use family genograms productively with very “tight” couples, without them intellectualizing the whole experience?