Space resolved concentrations of helium He metastable atoms in an atmospheric pressure radio-frequency micro-plasma jet were measured using tunable diode laser absorption spectroscopy. The spatial profile of metastable atoms in the volume between the electrodes was deduced for various electrode gap distances. Density profiles reveal the sheath structure and reflect the plasma excitation distribution, as well as the dominance of the alpha-mode discharge. Gap width variations show the transition from a normal glow plasma to a pure sheath discharge. In order to analyze and verify the experimentally observed profiles of the metastable atoms a 2-dimensional simulation model was set up. Applying an appropriate He/N2/O2 chemistry model the correlation between the metastable profiles and the underlying excitation mechanisms was obtained.