Special issues in the grief of parents of murdered children

Abstract

This paper is a report of one year's participant observation in a heal chapter of Parents of Murdered Children, a self-help group. The already difficult grief after the death of a child is complicated after murder by four special issues, (a.) Anger is focused on the person who willfully caused the death and there is a drive for revenge. (b) The grief cannot be resolved until the legal processes have been completed and within the court system the parent are caught up in a procedural labyrinth in which they have no legal standing, (c) Parents are fearful about the safety of themselves and other members of their family, (d) Parent of a murdered child is a taboo social role. The self-help process of Parents of Murdered Children as it differs from other self-help for for bereaved parents is discussed.